We like to believe that the external things that are forced upon us shape our lives. That there is very little you can do to change the way you think and feel, because what you perceive “is true”.
Life is a single-player game. It is all going on in your head. You know, whatever you think, you believe will very much form your reality. Not only what risks you take and how you behave but also your experience of your everyday life.
If you are walking down the street and you’re judging everyone. “I don’t like that person cause of their facial expression. Oh, she’s not attractive. That guy fat. This person a loser.” The more you are going to judge, the more you are going to separate yourself. And you’ll feel good for an instant, cause you feel good about yourself. But then you’re going to feel lonely. And then you’re just going to see negativity everywhere.
The world just reflects your own feelings back at you. Reality is neutral. Reality has no judgments. To a tree, there is no concept of right or wrong or good or bad. You’re born. You have a whole set of sensory experiences. Stimulations, lights, colors, and sounds, and then you die. And how you choose to interpret that is up to you. You do have that choice.
Being able to see the truth means to neglect character and identity. Considering that you truly would be able to see things clearly, through an unbiased lens, you would have the ability to be content in any given situation. To stop seeing good or bad, only the as-is information. You would live for the sake of living.
So sometimes it is good to lean into your identity. To, without question, accept your feeling of good or bad regarding a given situation. That is why you make decisions. It is the only way to shape your life and yourself.